We’re lucky enough to have a family friend hosting our California reception at her wine bar in Palo Alto. It’s going to be so nice to celebrate with the family and friends who are going to be happy to just be together and who I won’t have to worry about whether or not they like the food or beer or wine or decorations.
If we’re being honest, that’s probably the underlying reason I didn’t want a big wedding. I’m a people pleaser to the very core of my being. It’s an only child mentality to be sure. I actually enjoy being an assistant— my brain is actually addled that way? It’s the strangest thing. So I knew there was no way I would be able to relax on the day of my wedding. I would be running around pouring everyone’s wine for them or making sure the food was just exactly right and the music was perfect.
I probably could have convinced myself that the stress would melt away but I know that’s not true. I’m high-strung and I have no qualms about talking about it openly. And I’m glad that I know enough about myself to understand this. I was able to drop the pomp and ceremony of what a ‘wedding’ should to be (ahem, pinterest) and focus on what I needed from it: Ryan and me committing the rest of our lives to each other (not to mason jars with paper straws or twinkling lights or a perfect bouquet).
Now, we have a ceremony that is essentially only Ryan and I (god, this makes me so happy) and three receptions with our family and best friends. I am able to put the receptions in other people’s hands so I can just focus on our ceremony and when I show up to the receptions I can enjoy all the happiness that Ryan and I are lucky enough to have in our life.
But because you read my story, I will share our wine list for the California party (note: she chose all CA wines because duh):
Emile’s Grand Cuvee, California
'11 Sauvignon Blanc, Cannonball, North Coast
'11 Pinot Noir, Downhill Vineyards, Central Coast
'09 Sattgiovese, Noceto, Amador County
You’ll find me drinking beer but pouring wine, and being all the happier for it.